Younger Wonders
By Paul Michael, The Marriage Toolbox Magazine
Advice from children
"No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell . . . that's why perfume and deodorant are so popular."
- Mae, age 9
Paul Michael of Marriage toolbox writes:
"The way I look at it, kids see very well and have a whole lot of insight and wisdom to share. I actually think kids should have much more of a voice on the planet. I don't just welcome them and what they have to say - I need their company and learn a lot from their perspective. I grow from them tremendously. I am reminded of what is important when I am with them - like my need to live more simply and to just let it go and have more fun. "
Top-Notch Comments and Marriage Advice From Kids of All Ages
Children of all ages, these days, see and say some pretty amazing things about relationships
and marriage. We asked children and teens about how to have happiness in marriage based upon what they saw and learned in their own families. This is what they said.
Ask a child, "How do people in love typically behave?" and they might answer:
"When a person gets kissed for the first time, they fall down and they don't get up for at least an hour." - Wendy, age 8
Ask a child, "Why does love happen between two particular people?" and they might answer:
"One of the people has freckles and so he finds somebody else who has freckles too." - Andrew, age 6
Ask a child, "Why does love happen between two particular people?" and they might answer:
"I think you're supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn't supposed to be so painful." - Manuel, age 8
Ask a child, "How was the divorce from your point of view?" and they might answer:
"I know how it feels to be in the middle of a divorce. My mom wanted the divorce first in August. You can imagine how I felt when I was used to seeing my dad come home from work and my mom giving him a nice warm hug."
"Divorce is horrible. No one likes divorce. Even people who wanted the divorce. And it's not fair. People shouldn't have to go through things like divorce. It gives people something to think about. Deep down inside everyone's heart everyone hates divorce. I hope when people are living their
new lives (they) realize what they've done. It doesn't only give someone something to think about, it gives them something to remember."
"Kids that have never really heard the word divorce makes it a little bit harder on them. When the parent tells the child there getting a divorce, it's a real shock. They know what the word means, except they thought their parents were in love. When people get marriage they have to make a promise to stay together forever. Marriage is a promise you can't break."
"When parents get divorced it can affect their child. The child could start getting bad grades, all of a sudden get tired, lose track of things, forget things, feel lonely, and not come out of their room very much."